Heavy in the hand and with the whip - how do I stop?

Hello.

I understand it feels difficult, and it is lovely that you are sharing this and asking for help 🥰🐴

It is easy to get frustrated when you feel you lack the tools to solve a particular situation. Sometimes we end up in moments with our horses where they do not understand what we mean, and it can start to feel as though we become clearer by using harder methods. Does that sound familiar?

🐴 I would suggest you turn to a good trainer you trust and feel safe with, and describe how you feel and what tends to happen.

🐴 With more knowledge and insight, both into how it should feel and into how you teach the horse what you want it to do, you will hopefully find that you can soften your hand and that the whip neither works nor is needed. Until you feel you have got there, it is a good idea to stop using the whip while riding.

Good luck 🦄